These
last days I focused my attention on conventions. Society rests on
conventions.

In
the evening we went in town and looking at the people strolling
around was striking. All of them —no exception— were dressed
exactly the same respecting a strict social and gender code. After a
day at the beach they would shower —using copious over-smelling
skin and hair killing soaps and shampoos— and put on their best
summer dresses: shortish pants and clean t-shirts for the guys,
different types of fancy dresses, shoes and accessories for the
girls. Some of them even wore unbearable high heels! Appearance is
important because if you don't conform you're the weird one and
nobody wants to be.


The
day after visiting my parents I went to visit M.P. My mum's aunt
where my grandmother was staying.
Kisses
and hugs and then we were to go and visit one of my grandmother's
brothers who is spending his holidays in the countriside and lives 50
meters away form where we were. My grandaunt said that she wasn't
prepared to receive me and that if she knew someone was coming she
would put on something else over her chemise... She wasn't brave
enough to go visit her brother in law without dressing properly,
though.
Conventions
are very scary and of course the scariest ones are gender
conventions. Even for kids. One of my mum's cousins told me that she
would paint her 5 year old son's toenails since he wanted to. Maybe
something's changing, I thought, but then she said that she would do
it because no one could really see them and that she'd see what to do
in case they were more visible... I thought about an interesting article (in Spanish) I read about the same subject.
Things
might be much more difficult for parents if it's not just a boy
wanting to have funny nails, but if they show signs of being possible
transgender kids, like the boy in this very interesting article. I
say it's difficult because not very many people are as open minded as
the parents in the article and society's critiques and conventions
are always around the corner, ready to strike!
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